As we've moved into the 21st century, lots of things have changed. The price of gas has gone up incredulously, tattoos are beautiful signs of self expression, and more and more single people have kids. So in the dating world, what does that mean for us?
If you meet someone dynamic -- someone too good to be true -- and he drops a "bomb" on you by saying, "oh, by the way, i have a son", or something like that -- what do you do? How do you weigh whether to continue the relationship or not?
I've had many friends date guys with kids -- and often times, it does require a lot of extra patience and understanding, and in the end, a lot of times, it was too much to bear.
As you get older, though, in your upper 20s and 30s, it's a lot harder to find a potential mate that still resembles society's "ideal" candidate for marriage, specifically:
1) no previous kids
2) never been engaged (because, who wants someone that's already felt they found "the one" before?!)
3) never been married (see #2 for reason. Stipulation: If a guy is 40 and never been engaged or married, that's a whole 'nother issue)
For me, I'll be honest. If a guy was to step to me and say he had a kid or kids, I'd have to say there would be a slim chance of anything happening. I wouldn't completely rule him out before I saw how he interacted with the kid and whether there was baby mama drama, but I want to be the first person with my mate to have our child. DISCLAIMER: If a man was married and his wife died or they divorced, that'd be ok. Also, if a guy had to adopt his niece/sister/cousin because of unfortunate circumstances, that'd be okay too.
But my bottom line remains: GUYS HAVING KIDS DUE TO IRRESPONSIBILITY AIN'T CUTE!
Tell me if i'm wrong, but "responsibility" only costs $2.99 a pack, so what's the EXCUSE?!
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