Tuesday, December 02, 2008

Will praying for your man improve your relationship?

So, I had a great discussion with a couple of work friends at lunch today -- which begged the question -- is there really a "perfect" guy out there? Now, of course, none of us intelligent women believe there is such a thing, because that'd mean there's a such thin as a perfect PERSON. HowEVA, I do think a lot of us aspire to as close as perfection as we can get in a guy and when we find it, we hold on like hell.

What was most amazing to me is that one friend, let's call her Kim, is a newlywed and she and her hubby are the cutest couple in the world! So, when she told me that even SHE had to read and pray to get to a good place in her newly-minted marriage, I thought "hmm...even newlyweds are still trying to figure it out." What was even MORE amazing is that she told me, in all honestly, she wasn't sure she was ready to be married even during her engagement. How mind blowing is that?!

Whenever someone gets engaged, it seems they run to the alter (unless they're crazy and deranged or a drama-filled person anyway, in which case, we assume they're doomed from the start). But when Kim told me this, I realized that maybe not everyone is 100% sure when they get engaged or even married (thank goodness!).

Kim told me the secret to some of her success - she reads a book called "The Power of a Praying Wife", by Stormie Omartian . Now, Kim isn't a "holy roller" or even someone who claims to read Christian books (and I don't necessarily think "She's a Christian" upon meeting her, just to give you reference) - but she said THIS book, which she got as a gift for her engagement, has given her some amazing tools she's needed as an engaged woman and as a new wife and it's made a huge difference in her life.

Something I've been considering is this: perhaps we get confused or anxious when big events happen in our lives because we don't have something sturdy in our lives to ground us - whether it's your faith, purpose, or otherwise. And if we find that thing that we can hook onto to make us feel stable in life, then everything else will fall into place because we know THAT one thing...that stable factor...is true and pure.

Anyway, back to the book, check out the numerous reviews for The Power of a Praying Wife here and see for yourself if it might be a good read for you. I'm going to B&N this weekend and will flip-through to see for myself! Enjoy!

2 comments:

Anonymous said...

HELL NO PRAYING DOESN'T BRING YOU A GOOD MAN. YOU HAVE TO WORK TO FIND A GOOD MAN!! EVERY TIME I HEAR A WOMAN SAY THAT THEY ARE GOING TO PRAY FOR GOD TO SEND THEM A GOOD MAN GETS ON MY NERVES. GOD HELPS THOSE WHO HELP THEMSELVES.
THAT PRAYING FOR A GOOD MAN JUST MEANS YOU ARE BEING LAZY.

GOD HAS A FEW OTHER THINGS ON HIS PLATE. YOUR LOVE LIFE IS UP TO YOU.

GET OFF YOUR BUTT AND USE THE GIFTS GOD GAVE YOU TO HELP YOURSELF AND YOUR COMMUNITY. IF YOU WANT A GOOD MAN, BE A GOOD OR BETTER WOMAN.

Anonymous said...

I for one think the power of prayer is undeniable! Be it praying for your heart to mend, praying for God to prepare you to recognize a good man when he is in your face, or praying for the ability to love someone completely along with their faults. But sometimes we do need some guidance on how to talk to God about our love life issues without sounding judgmental, heartless and/or selfish. Thanks for the book recommendation. I will be sure to scoop it up this weekend :-D